God’s Plan
God’s Plan

God’s Plan:Not the Drake song, but God’s plan vs. my plan.10 years ago, today, I had a plan to spend the rest of my life with the most amazing woman I had ever met, really the woman of my dreams. Little did I know that plan would not turn out the way I intended… Fast forward to today (bloop, bloop, bloop…)  The boys’ nightly routine includes brushing teeth, getting in jammies, prayers, book time and going over the plan for tomorrow. But this week has included “story-time.” This story-time has been stories about Ashley. This […]

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Taube Trot, Nice Alliteration!
Taube Trot, Nice Alliteration!

I have been struggling with this particular topic.  Not making alliterations, that was a game Ashley and I played when naming things like our cars, our dog, our kids…  We never stuck to the alliteration but Ashley liked the word play. Toews Taube was my leading name for Fischer.  (For those of you that are not hockey fans, its pronounced Taves.)  When Ashley shot that down, I tried to come up with crazier names. Didn’t work, but I almost had her convinced that we could make his middle name Danger, so that he could always […]

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Happy Birthday Ashee!
Happy Birthday Ashee!

So this is not my typical blog post. I have been very open in this blog but what is on my heart today is for Fischer, Baker and Ashley. So instead, I share with you my feelings for Ashley back before we were even a couple. This is the first birthday card that I wrote Ashley in 2005. We were not dating. (That story or at least part of it is in a future post. Also, I had not honed my writing skills yet so that card is more statements of fact rather than poetic […]

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3 Month Check-up
3 Month Check-up

Here I am, the three-month anniversary of Ashley passing, well at least it was the 3-month anniversary when I started this blog post. I was going to post last week on the 20th, but didn’t… Not really sure why. I’ve continued to write, so I have material but I haven’t posted much. There have been some technical difficulties with the host server, so I have not been able to post.  (If you have not been able to gain access to past blogs I am sorry but that’s why)  But even with those issues aside, I […]

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Coaching…
Coaching…

I haven’t blogged in a while. Life has gotten busy. Teaching, covering Spring sports, Daylight-Savings Time change, the boys’ activities… Ashley would have this obstacle to posting as well. Life happens… Luckily, I have Spring break coming up because I have had a lot on my mind lately and have plenty to write.But this past weekend was particularly noteworthy and I wanted to post while it was still fresh on my mind… This morning I was reading an article about a South Georgia coach who was fired because of “four major violations of the Georgia […]

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Remembering Markham
Remembering Markham

If you have spent any time with Dr. Markham, there is no doubt you have a story. Mr. Markham My story or at least the story of my adult life, actually begins with Mr. Markham. In June 2004, I interviewed for an athletic training job in Gulf Breeze, Florida with a national physical therapy company. I did not get that job but they offered me a position in either Hilton Head, South Carolina or Dacula, Georgia. I obviously jumped at the Hilton Head job.  Except there was a catch, that job was not available till […]

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St. Valentine’s Day
St. Valentine’s Day

I wasn’t planning to blog today, but couldn’t sleep.  So, this morning I wake up at 3:00 am, as I often do… This has been an odd side effect of the past year or so.  Often in the middle of the night I would get up to check on Ashley and I would look at the clock and it would be around 3 am. Not sure why 3 am but Ashley usually had to get up through the night to use the restroom.  But I would wake up and I would see that Ashley was […]

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Choosing Happy is Hard
Choosing Happy is Hard

Choosing happy is hard. Extremely hard. I know it is for me right now. And I know it was for Ashley. Sometimes I wondered how she could make the choice to be happy, to pull herself out of sadness when she was in pain, frustrated, too weak to be herself… Now I ask myself the same questions. How do we choose to fill this huge hole that we have in our hearts? Sometimes we can’t. Rather we have other choices about our behaviors and our thoughts.  I can choose to get out of bed. Then choose […]

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A Cheerful Heart is Good Medicine
A Cheerful Heart is Good Medicine

It’s been difficult for me to write this blog entry. Not because I don’t have anything to say, but how do you do justice to a sport that meant so much to Ashley and was so much a part of my life the last 14 years (25 years for Ashley) in one blog entry. This post was 3452 words so I edited it down, which become 5551 words before I edited it again. This blog is still too long but you can judge for yourself. Thursday 1/24 was five weeks since Ashley passed away. I […]

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Yay! You’re Home.
Yay! You’re Home.

Several years ago, when Fischer was about 1 1/2, I came home early because a game got cancelled.  I opened up the door and he hopped off the couch and came running to me (Fischer was walking at 10 months) and said Daddy! and Ashley said “Yay, Daddy’s home.” I said, “you don’t know how happy this makes me” Ashley replied, “you don’t know, how happy THIS, makes me!” One day Ashley was shopping and saw this sign (Yay! You’re Home!) and thought of me. Ashley often told me that she was always so happy […]

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What do I know- Part 2    (way too long blog post)
What do I know- Part 2 (way too long blog post)

As I continue to honor Ashley’s memory, I want to share some of my thoughts on grief. My wife had so many awesome connections in her life, that I know there is an army of people that have similar feelings to mine. Even if it’s a fraction of what I feel, I know it hurts. In “Part 1,” I alluded to the idea that my tips for dealing with grief aren’t working for me but might work for you. That’s a stupid statement. (As Baker’s voice is ringing in my head, “daddy you shouldn’t say […]

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What do I know?
What do I know?

Ashley would often point out that I never take credit for my doctorate.  If it were up to her, all of my clothing and belongings would be embroidered or emblazoned with Dr. Taube. I don’t emblazon anything. This Christmas Ashley got me a journal embossed with Dr. Taube.  She told my sister in-law, “Mike never wants recognition for his accomplishments, I’m going to keep getting gifts with Dr. Taube on it.”  She went to say that I am a nerd that writes everything down when we go to doctor’s appointments, or meetings, or parent teacher […]

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Puka Shells and a Seatbelt Purse
Puka Shells and a Seatbelt Purse

So here you go, the continuation of the jointeamtaube.com blog. The past few days I’ve gotten a lot of positive feedback on my remembrance of Ashley at her Celebration of life. It was hard for me to even to attempt to eulogize my wife.  The only thing I found fitting, was a love letter that I wrote to Ashley on our wedding day. Ashley keeps everything, and I mean everything.  So as I was looking through important documents that you need when you spouse passes, I found the letter. Reading the letter brought back memories […]

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I’ll Be There for You
I’ll Be There for You

It has been two weeks since Ashley has passed. I did not think I would make it two minutes without her, let alone two weeks. Living life without Ashley hasn’t gotten easier, but it hasn’t gotten harder. My boys give me silliness and love when I need it, my family gives me strength and have been awesome at helping me navigate this new life and my friends… my friends are my lifeline. They keep me from withdrawing, keep me connected to Ashley, keep me laughing… Ashley and I have been very lucky to have the […]

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Bloop, Bloop, Bloop
Bloop, Bloop, Bloop

What’s that? In our house, we say “bloop, bloop, bloop” instead of fast-forward when watching a recorded show. This goes back to when Ashley and I first started hanging out. She would record shows like Big Bang Theory or Sex in the City on her Tivo. I’d come over to do laundry and watch TV. See, when I first moved to Georgia I wasn’t going to settle here so I did not afford myself the luxuries of a washer and dryer, or cable TV for that matter. So, being a nice friend, Ashley let me […]

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